Christmas parties, for work and with friends, lunch and coffee dates to exchange gifts or stories, it’s that time of year. Then the family gatherings, there is a lot going on, so let’s think about what we’re thinking about.
During and at these holiday events, what are you wishing for?
- That work will put in a bonus or gift of some kind?
- That your friend will bring you something as wonderful as the gift you picked for him/her?
- That your spouse/partner has been paying attention to the hints you’ve been dropping regularly?
- That siblings, kids, relatives will be thoughtful, help out, get along?
“To wish was to hope, and to hope was to expect”
― Jane Austen, Sense and Sensibility
Expectation can equal disappointment. And being disappointed around this richly extended holiday season is being less than your best.
So here’s the Q = Question for this week. What are you wishing for that you can release?
When you hold the thought that someone or some event can fulfill your wishes, you’ve given some of your power away.
Yes, it’s really nice to receive – I personally love it – and yet, what I’m about to suggest has helped me immensely.
What if you do things, give things, enjoy things for yourself? For the joy, you get in the giving, for the delight you experience when someone recognizes your work, creativity, etc.
When we let go of wishing for things to come or people to behave a certain way and focus instead on what we do, give, say, and believe, we are in control of our own happiness. Isn’t this fantastic?
It’s sort of embarrassing to admit this, however, I’ve actually been so excited about a gift I was giving that I pretty much helped unwrap the present myself.
My excitement and delight in seeing how my friend/colleague/relative likes or laughs at my gift is the greatest gift I can have.
When I release wishing for anything, or anyone to make my holidays, I’m happier than ever. Why not give this a go? Let me know how you do.